I’m tutoring a young boy now to speak 2 languages. One being English, the other Malay. The mother has big plans for him. Wanted him to be a polyglot, highly paid pilot when he grows up. He could choose to be anything he wants and his parents would pave the way for him, provide him with all the things he needs.They’d be sending him to a flying school overseas in a few years time. Been telling me about their big plans. A truly fortunate child if he knows better.
But unfortunately for the parents, they brought up a rather spoilt, ungrateful brat. To teach him is really tough. Not because he is stupid but lazy and unmotivated. How do you get a child who has everything a 10 year old could have, motivated to study? Complacent and not wanting to improve. I remember myself at 10 years old being able to read and write fairly well in English, even though English is my second language. It would take him 30 minutes just to write 2 words. Even after 2 years of tutoring him two days a week he couldn’t even form a proper English sentence. How much can a tutor do? You can take the horse by the river for a drink but you can’t make the horse drink if he doesn’t want to.
Today I will go again and force him to write (2-3 writing exercise books kept disappearing whenever I gave homework for him) and learn grammar because his mom wants him to sit for an EU standard English test in August. He couldn’t even do an example test. And not that I didn’t teach him all those things required.
All this while I asked him whether he really wants to be a pilot, he said yes. Confidently. But when it comes to work that he needs to do to get there, he changed his mind. Yesterday telling me he doesn’t know want he wants to be. Not a pilot. I told him, even if he doesn’t want to become a pilot, he still has to study. The only job which he isn’t required to study is being the garbage man. But then again, one cannot know, perhaps in 10 years time, landing a job as a garbage man requires a degree. Hah!
I’m writing this because I feel angry actually. To think that there are so many children who wants to go to school and couldn’t. And here a spoilt child getting the best education he could get and yet not wanting to do it. Taking everything his parents did for him for granted. He doesn’t have to have a computer memory, all he needs is to work a little bit. But he never knew the meaning of ‘work’.
One thing I’m quite sure is I’d never want to see my daughter like this. I won’t reward laziness and failure with toys and luxuries. Since I’ve seen myself what would happen if I do.